Attunement > Atonement: Breaking the Cycle
We have been taught many things about ourselves that are untrue. As we break out of these thought patterns and begin to see the truth of who we are, we have to do a fair amount of deconstruction of these false beliefs that have been engrained in us as a species for thousands of years. That’s why breaking generational cycles is so difficult. We have been taught collectively that there is something fundamentally wrong with us on a basic human level, and we must find a way to atone for that through self-punishment and anguish. We all contain light and darkness within. What if we didn’t place judgment on our innate composition? If humans were free to exist just as they are outside of duality and separation, we would have freedom of expression without fear that someone else’s existence might be a threat to our own way of life. If we all had the ability to attune ourselves to our higher guidance, it would eliminate our attachment to external validation and criticism, which feels like a constant threat to our nervous systems.
The nervous system is highly intelligent, and it works hard to keep you going. It is unfortunately also highly susceptible to social pressures because we have evolved in communities that have kept us alive despite the harshness of nature. In primitive communities, being ostracized often meant certain death, so we as humans tend to do what is necessary to be accepted in society. Therefore, we are still largely committed to blending in subconsciously because it feels inherently dangerous to stand out. Considering all of these factors, it stands to reason that we would all do our best to accept what we have been taught regarding life itself for our own survival. When we start to breach the norms that have been presented to us, we feel an intense sense of vulnerability that tempts us to stay the same lest we be destroyed. However, many of us are at a breaking point that is calling us forward by our hearts on such a deep level that we are able to find the courage to truly love ourselves as we are despite our misalignment with the world at large and collective consciousness in our communities.
Reaching this point and falling headfirst into self-acceptance and authentic self-love can be terrifying because it seems like your entire world is collapsing. Everything that you believed before seems less familiar, and you are forced to find safety in your own becoming. This is the point where you realize that punishing yourself would never quench your desire for self-improvement. You also begin to realize how many mechanisms you’ve placed in your life to punish yourself into excellence, and it takes time to fully shift out of that mentality and into the realm of attunement. Attuning to your most authentic frequency demands that you let go of everything else. Seeing your flawed humanity through kinder, more loving eyes cannot happen while you still harbor self-hatred. I would challenge you to sit in the stillness and ponder where this self-hatred came from, and once you find the source of this pain, I would challenge you even further to send unconditional love in that direction.
Regardless of the origin of this pain, the solution is the same. Connection is the only antidote for this nagging pain that seems endless. You must find a way to connect with yourself and existence itself to heal this great rift that has occurred within. Connection and love are more than just your birthright, they are who you truly are beneath all of the layers of conditioning you received as you grew up in this hurting world. It can be tempting to point the finger at our circumstances or the people in our lives in an attempt to escape blame for ending up this way. Victimhood consciousness is a trap that held onto me for many years, and it kept me from seeing the fact that placing blame heals nothing. Blame, shame, punishment, and criticism are energetic traps that will never stop taking from you. Connection with your higher power and unconditional love are endless wells of energy that can be tapped into at any time.
We have all experienced horrible things, and we have all done horrible things. Circling around them endlessly will never solve your problems and punishing yourself will never help you reach your fullest potential. Seeing yourself fully in total acceptance despite anything that has happened to you and everything you’ve done is the key to becoming a better version of yourself. If you want to be better, love yourself better and see what happens.